To The Husband I Never Give Enough Credit
Can't live with them, can't live without them...
My husband DRIVES ME NUTS.
We bicker about parenting decisions.... He has no patience at all.... I leave Olivia with him alone and he stresses.... He gets Olivia all hyped up right before bed.... He never knows what to feed her....He doesn't know how to dress her...
He is the best Dad. I couldn't have possibly picked a better person to have a family with.
I know, I know.. you're thinking, "This chick is crazy, she just listed several reasons why he is a terrible Dad, how could he possibly be the best??" Motherhood has made me crazy, but not that crazy...I have my reasons...
We bicker about parenting decisions because he really cares and wants an active role in making sure we don't mess our kid up. He wants to create a functioning human being just as much as I do, and I respect that. I just like to say that we're both passionate in our own ways...
He has no patience because he's so worried he's going to do the wrong thing or say the wrong thing.
He gets nervous when I leave Olivia with him alone because he doesn't want me to worry when I'm gone. He wants me to trust that he can do everything, just like I would do, on his own. My husband wants to be the best Dad so badly that it gives him anxiety.
He gets Olivia hyper right before bed because he works long hours and by the time he gets home it's almost her bedtime. He spends the whole day missing her and wanting to play with her. By the time he gets home after a long day, he just wants to hear her giggle and laugh. Quality time is quality time, no matter what time it is.
He never knows what to feed her because he wants to make sure she's getting everything she needs. Too much acidic food and she gets a rash. Not enough fiber and she's constipated. He just wants her to grow big and strong.
He doesn't know how to dress her because he's worried she might be too hot or too cold. He wants her to be comfortable. He wants her to be happy.
He thinks that he is failing at being a Dad almost all the time, but he isn't at all. He is the best Dad because he cares. He tries every single day to be the best Dad that he can be, and because of that, he is.
I always think about how often I feel like I am failing as a Mom, but I never consider how my husband might feel. He struggles with his confidence as a parent just as much as I do.
This is why we have to remind the Dads just how amazing they are.
Do they drive us crazy? Hell yes.
Do we want to strangle them sometimes? Hell yes.
But could we do it without them? For me, I know that I could never do this without him.